Lesson 2: Your Uniqueness
Read Proverbs 18:21, 24; 27:17; 19:1-3;
The uniqueness of our humanity is that we do not need to learn how to be bad at stuff. We are naturally good at hate and evil. Those kindergarteners came to us unable to behave, while their parents fought and used colorful four-letter metaphors to express themselves. It is all part of our sinful nature. Thus, to grow beyond this filth of works (Galatians 5: 19-21), we have to be willing to learn to apply the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5: 22-23). We offered the parents effectiveness training; however, few of them took advantage of this or any of our other programs designed to turn them from the harshness of their situations toward a better direction. These parents lived in a pattern of life using what they knew and had experienced, and were not interested in growing from those experiences to better ones. They did not want to take advantage of getting better jobs, better living situations, or to get off drugs and alcohol. Even the immigrants, who were here illegally, could get citizenship under amnesty programs; yet, most did not want to. Many of them were on drugs, alcohol, welfare, and were inundated with anger and bitterness, choosing to remain in that harsh attitude. They had the opportunity to change; the resources and money were there to help them, but few wanted it.
We have to learn what love is, how to relate, and, how to make friends. We have to want to! We have to learn and keep on learning how to love. We have to learn about character, put it into practice, and keep learning and practicing. There is no end to this cycle until we are called home. Once we stop, we stop relating, and our relationships stop. We need to see friendships as enjoyment, given to us to use. People are precious and are brought to us to enjoy. If we get this backwards, we will fail with life's precious gift. We are to seek the fun and the excitement of something special, because each friendship is special.
Discussion Questions:
1. How is friendship operated on the principle of love?
2. How important is being real and honest, not pretentious or fake?
3. Why is the willingness to work at it and put in extra effort required?
4. Have you wondered why some people succeed in business and church leadership even though they seem to have no skills or abilities to contribute effectively to their profession?
5. Why do you think we have to learn what love is, how to relate, and, how to make friends? What is the key to making this happen?
6. Do you think that if you wanted to, you could do better in making good and lasting friends?
7. How is building friendship an act of our faith?
8. Consider that people are naturally inclined to hate and not get along rather than to love and get along. How can this knowledge help you be better at making friends? What extra efforts are needed for you? What blocks those efforts from happening?
9. How does good character come into play in friendships? What steps can you take to do a better job at putting good character into practice?
10. What can your church do to better facilitate an atmosphere of peace and togetherness?
Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. It gave me great joy to have some brothers come and tell about your faithfulness to the truth and how you continue to walk in the truth. I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth. 3 John 1:2-4
© 2005 R. J. Krejcir Ph.D., Into Thy Word Ministries www.intothyword.org